Why is it that we seem to always stick to one type and make it our default? I say this because on numerous accounts during conversations with my girl friends, the topic of choice always seems to resort to "Meg why do you always go for the bad boys?" Back in my early years of dating, haha early? Why am I making myself sound soo old, well you know what I mean, more like my 'stupid in love days of dating', I would have a quick comeback to that question. But now a days I find myself mumbling a little and trying my hardest to avoid such a gruesome question. Want to know why I stumble upon the answer, basically because "Who the hell knows?"
My 'type' if you want to put it that way, seems to indeed be the 'bad boys' well actually to put it in laymen terms 'the low life losers' who need a motherly type of girlfriend which sadly is me. Since I was little I have always been a leader and never a follower and I think I have just brought that strong trait into every relationship I have come across. I meet a guy and the first thing I notice is if he is capable of taking care of himself, and if the answer is 'yes' then Sia Nora! Why I do that? I cannot provide you with an answer, unfortunately! I once dated a guy for 4 years on and off and he was one messed up guy. When I say messed up, I really mean messed up. He got caught up in drugs all his life, never had a job or actually could just never keep a job for longer then a few weeks, and depended solely on his mother for everything and anything he could think of. When we met it was like 'Ohh a project for me, yay!' but little did I know that the project I was soo happy on taking would drain the living crap out of me and pretty much change me in every way possible, and not in the most positive way might I add. During and after this little project I so called 'the love of my life', I dated a guy who not only lived in a completely different state but who had a kid and was pretty much a borderline alcoholic. After that obviously didn't work out I then got myself into, notice I didn't put it as 'started dating' because at this point it wasn't much of dating but more of 'What mess can I get myself into next' kind of thing. Well he was an older fella, in his 30's and so of course the first thing that comes to my mind is 'Finally an older guy who will take care of me for once and will not need me to be his mother.' Wow was I wrong, not only was I extremely wrong about him being older and that means more mature, but he was even more dependable, more so the biggest 'mamma's boy' I have ever dated in my entire life. On our first date he was drinking pineapple juice with no alcohol at a bar and I thought that was incredible considering I have never been with a guy who doesn't drink. Gosh who am I kidding? About 10 minutes into the date he tells me that he is a recovering alcoholic and has only been sober for a few months now. Then I find out he has 2 kids to top it off. Don't get me wrong, I think having children is the greatest thing that can happen to someone, but a recovering alcoholic with 2 young kids just waves the biggest red flag. That relationship didn't last long, surprise, surprise, and you want to know why? Well basically I had to mother him day by day and make sure he was strong enough not to resort to alcohol and what do you think happened? He relapsed and all hell went down from there.
What a keeper these guys were right? So I guess the answer to that golden question everyone asks me is, 'who wants a normal, independent, successful guy when you can have any one of the guys I mentioned and pretty much verbally destroyed in this article?' Is it for the challenge they provide? Or just pure stupidity on my end? One will never know I guess and in a weird way, I don't know if I even want to know the answer to that question because it might just suck the fun out of dating in general. Reading what I just wrote really makes me sound pretty crazy but you know what, that's ME and so all I can say to that is DEAL WITH IT!
Do girls just fall into a pattern of that certain guy-type or do we just settle?
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