Why has our perception of dating gone from falling in love with the perfect guy/girl to yearning for that challenge that they can provide for us?
I am the most perfect example of a screwed up dater and what I mean by that is if you put a jerk bad boy in front of me next to a sweet nice guy I would not even look twice at the nice guy and go straight for the bad boy. We have already talked about my certain type of guys that I go for, but that is not what I am getting at. The point I am trying to make is that every girl steers as far away as possible from the good guys and right into their ‘certain type of guy.’ I am not saying that all girls like the bad boys, but what I am merely saying is that they are 99% of the time not interested in the nice guy that is into them. Over dinner a few nights ago with some of my closest girl friends one of them told me a story that justifies my point exactly. She was telling me that her husband’s really good friend confessed he had a thing for her husbands little sister, which to their eyes was a great thing because he was a really sweet good caring guy. When she confronted his little sister about him to everyone’s surprise she also had a crush on him for years. They went out a few times and after getting to know him a little more she told her brother that she was not very interested in him anymore because he was ‘just way too nice.’ My point exactly!
Why is it that girls run away from that when the only thing they should be doing is diving head first into a relationship that involves a guy that is super sweet and caring? A similar situation just happened to me and if this doesn’t prove my point then I honestly don’t know what will. I have dated my share of bad boys that in the end didn’t give me the time of day I deserved and all I wanted was a normal relationship after all those disasters. So please explain to me why the hell I am in the situation that I am in now IF IT IS EXACTLY WHAT I HAVE BEEN ASKING FOR? I met this really sweet producer that I used to work with a few months back for some drinks and to watch a Laker game and he ended up asking for my number that night. We went out with some of my friends one night and after that I was sure he wouldn’t be interested in me anymore because I wasn’t really giving him too much attention or showing much interest. So a few days later he texts me and invites me to his friends party that Friday and instead of trying to make plans with him I made up a lie and excused myself from that event. I was sure after that he really would not contact me anymore but of course I was completely wrong. Two nights ago he text me again and tricked me into telling him that I might possibly have no plans Friday night. He then asked me to dinner and I replied back that it sounds good but I would have to check with something before I set plans with him. Me checking with something was obviously me calling my best friend and begging her to help me come up with an excuse as to why I couldn’t make it to dinner. I know I sound like a selfish bitch but understand where I am coming from. I am not interested in him that way, there was just no spark, the spark that needs to exist in order to pursue dinner plans. Do guys just not get the hint that a girl is not interested in them? Or do they and does that make them want us more, also known as, the ‘challenge.’
Why do we look the other direction when we come across a sweet good guy when all we do is bitch and whine about finding our prince charming?
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